@ sara in an earlier post could you deFine the word normal? when we started talking, I made it very clear to him my thoughts of getting involved with a married man. I wish people didnt have to deal with such unfair treatment in relationships. full, without reckoning He never read Esha namaaz that night, because he never woke up. hers will be destroyed at her hands. Us girls leave our loving family homes to be with our husbands and create that same love there. Please find all facts on islamweb.net I always go by them but Quran is key we have to read and understand.. on a personal note I would not except either but for sure would let him marry without any issue and say goodbye: remember how did he find this second wife by lowering his gaze ? It's not just about love The Prophet, may Allah bless him and give him peace, said, "No believing man should hate a believing woman. You will not be able to do justice between wives, even if you are anxious to do justice. Broadly, Islam has five categories of Dos and Donts. marrying someone other than her husband when she is still married to her All of these factors and many others apply to the istikhaarah At least sisters are ambitious ,take their deen seriously and the roles seriously. For the women here, i want to say that most of the times human never foresees the results of allahs commandments. For this reason, several scholars encourage a Muslim man to marry only one wife at a time, in order to protect himself from such a trial and potential punishment. Thank u very much jazakallahu khairan. Me and my husband is living in foreign.every year he come for vacation 1 or 2 months and he spend full time with 2 nd wife. Here are the hadith that explain this, O youth, who among you who have baah then should he marry (Narrated by al-Bukhari), 9. In Islam, marriage is a solemn contract for which the Shari`ah lays down rules and arrangements to guarantee its stability. My guess is that they moved on to another town. Brothers, dont blame your wives if you start having impure thoughts about other women. walan ta3delo, so as it says at the beginning of surat al-nisa , One wife is Better if you cannot treat them equally. So, now YOU move away from in front of the TV and make ME a sandwich. How many can do so? There are even Hadiths that say that it would destroy the marriage if the woman took the role of the man and vice versa. Men have distorted Islam to the point its unrecognisable. despite all this my husband chats to women and deep down i have strong reason to suspect he has been with other women. Because ISLAM is the only perfect way of lifestyle. Being a woman and knowing tons of other women I know when respect is given and there is lots of communication, the man will get whatever he wants, trust me on that. But if he does not do it purposely then he wont get sins. It is a way for them to believe it is okay. If one talaq or two talaqs are Bayina, then after three months or three menstrual periods can be remarried. Above All, He Desires Your Respect we can support and help them without sharing our husband. It is far easier for man to get back in mood for sex than a women. Treat her like a servant. I hardly ever hear any good. If he loves you although you are (i`m not pregnant) Salaam However, men are not obliged to take permission but at the same time they are required to inform their wives. Based on the above, you should push away all whispers from Now they both can change that according to their mutual consent, but if there is a conflict, it is going to be judged according to the responsibilities divided by Allah(swt). My husband went to Egypt to visit his family as usual. I hope that shed some light on the issue for you all. Earlier, there was no restriction even on Hindu men with respect to the number of wives allowed. It doesnt mean hes fantasizing about another woman. The reaction of most of these women show exactly why this article is called 7 things your husband wont tell you I cannot say Im a Muslim but I will not give charity (zakat) Its not pick and choose. Here is the sound of chapter 53 that governs the marriage of women who are pregnant due to adultery. However, if the man wants to marry after the second, Islam limits in it. If a man takes a second wife against the wishes of his first wife, a sister has the right to divorce him. 2. Do not punish, condemn, and boycott your wives. U have to attract him in such way that,he should be afraid to listen the word DIVORCE from your mouth. Salamualaikum wa rahmatuLlahi wa barakatuh. InshaAllah You are also rewarded thrice , once for fulfilling a desire through halal means, twice because although you were not in the mood you still fulfilled your husbands desire and thirdly because you listened to your husband. As described in one of the verses of the Quran below. Give them a life of good and worth living. if your husband stops listening and refuses to help you understand what you clearly want to, but instead demands and demands to have what he alone needs and by any means necessary takes what he needs. You should choose for yourself a man who is of good character and religiously committed, as the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: If there comes to you one whose religious commitment and attitude pleases you, then marry [your female relative who is under your care] to him, for if you do not do that, there will be tribulation on earth and much corruption. Narrated by at-Tirmidhi (1084) from the hadeeth of Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him)classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh at-Tirmidhi. Polygamy is a difficult situation to address. Islam put an upper limit of four wives. subhanallah! I will appreciate that. Questions cannot be asked through this form, Plural marriage and fair treatment of co-wives. That plus the fact that a good human is what one needs to strive to be, not a good muslim. But women should not let jealousy make them object to that which Allah has permitted, and they should not try to prevent it; a wife should allow her husband to marry another woman for this is a kind of cooperating in righteousness and piety. If hes doing his best to take care of you. its not that you need to tie a pencil to it. I would like to know if it is completely unacceptable or impossible to ask a potential husband if he and his potential wife could wait until they knew each other a little better before being intimate? Functional cookies help to perform certain functionalities like sharing the content of the website on social media platforms, collect feedbacks, and other third-party features. Now I realize how good I got it because Alhamdulillah my wife is not like most of you regurgitating your jahiliyya to an extent to commit major kufr. But remember what they doing is wrong. But he sends all love messages to his 2 nd wife. I did not find anything to be forced. Allah knows best, Are you kidding ME????? Alhamduliallh. From hubby n my in-laws also. I am not hurt by your comment but I believe this article only wants to be as realistic as possible. And most men take advantage of that they have the women work, and then come home to cook and take care of the kids. up his family? It also means being the head in forgiveness, understanding, love and mercy. Lve ! If you only learn to use it properly. Instead of focusing on starting up a business to impress your wife and to give her more, how about reading the Quran to understand and asking Allah to truly get what you want. assalam alaikum I need to correct you , you cannot say you disagree with something because it doesnt suit you or you dont like it; If we cant get 1 right how can we get 2 or 3 right? Sharing his love, his smiles, his jokes with a woman other than myself. If you dont then dont expect much from him. It was a woman recently divorced, 4 children. Why do you think men like buying women gifts? do all this before you sleep and insha allah you will finally realise a lot more about a real marriage. We must gave been in our friendly relationship stage about year and half when a coworker of his contacted me, asking me out. Uncover Hidden Dream Meanings. failure after only a few months, because they are based on a weak Do you know his family and friends? I agree with you ,u shoot my many problem.only one word I want to say thanks. They was ringing me to amenice me to leave him. wife). Nice. Because then hell start feeling that you dont respect (theres that word again) the things he does do for you. big deal, a wife isnt happy about her husband being a man and being polygamous by nature, and men arent happy with women in many regards either. If you (men) want to do a second marriage. To use the same rules for the current century really doesnt make sense. If a woman refuses to have sex with her husband, maybe her husband should ask why she is doing this and actually listen to what she says. My Muslim husband shows no love or respect towards me, and therefore I will not show it to him. I imagine there is an article for things a muslim wife wont tell you, but you really put men high up on a pedal-stool, in the Islamic perspective women really are required to wholeheartedly obey and accept all the lust of their husbands. It would be something very difficult to come to terms with, I agree but this life is a test and through the difficulties we encounter and how we deal with them will determine our station in the akhira. Assalam o alikum Its a designated duty of the wife to comfort her husband, and protect him for indulging in something unlawful or from being distracted from his own responsibilities. If you are worried about not being able to do justice both inwardly and materially. But we just cant treat you the same way he (pbuh) treated his wives. Everyone is touched by time, but who he is inside is what matters. this is just one example and nothing more than it and there are many so .. always remember anything Approved / Allowed in Islam is for the benefits of both Men & Women and we Muslims may ask for more details untill we have good understanding of the subject but are not allowed to refuse / deny those allowances. He phoned me a few days later telling me that his wife is having a hard time accepting it but that she is willing to meet me. It is tge complete right of a woman if she doesnt want to live with his husband afterwards. and dont let someone walk over you. It is never written anywhere where a woman commands her husband. Think about this please. Marriage, Polygamy, Marital relationships. As it is the duty of Muslims to fulfill all obligations, the Muslim husband cannot but honor such a condition. Of course he'll desire sex but that doesn't mean he should disrespect you. Nura [not her real name] is a 42-year-old Kenyan woman. And what if the first wife becomes so sad and unhappy with the idea of her husband sleeping with another woman that she cries every day, becomes so sad and unhappy that she becomes a lifeless doll basically in her daily life. It was only in 1954, when the Hindu Marriage Act was passed that it became illegal for a Hindu to have more than one wife. The writer is just writing on what is happening in our society. Yes I used to have fights with my husband on pity things because he was not giving me the love I wanted I wanted his care I wanted him to see I stay home all alone I go frustrated n crazy. Establishment of kinship among fellow human beings. and he did with my permission, but they did not inform the woman that it is his second marriage. To read that title he thinks about other women and then the next one.. he wants to make you happy The threat of a husband who can not be fair, Men who already have two wives, then he should be able to support them fairly. Ward off from yourselves and your families a Fire whereof the fuel is men and stones, over which are set angels strong, severe, who resist not Allah in that which He commandeth them, but do that which they are commanded. (Verse 66: 6). Just my observation. InshaAllah Allah will reward you for all your patience and effort. Shaina i advice u 2 believe totally in Allahs word otherwise u will be among unbeliever, Allah as d creator know what is good us, Man are allow 2 marry more than one wife and we all see how female are very very Plenty than male i pray u will not be among 39 or 40s years ladie who av not sure of a particular man. Imagine if someone told you Oh dont worry your wife thinks of other men its completely normal how would you feel?? Even if we do not want to do it. Nobodys perfect.Perhaps your husband isnt a Muslim scholar. nobody is forcing anyone luv. You need to put it in your marriage contract that you want a second wife. You need more discipline in your life. disobeying Allaah or going against His commands, this is a sin for which he Disclaimer:The conceptualization and recommendations stated in this response are very general and purely based on the limited information provided in the question. For instance, if the second marriage is likely to upset the first marriage and the family structure already established, then a second marriage should be avoided, as it undermines the very purpose of the Islamic rules of marriage. i am also a muslim girl..we had physical relationship on one day.but still i am virgin.he said before that we can marry if our parents allows.but now he dont want to marry me as his parents dont allow him to do..but now they agree.but he is saying that let us go two ways..not to make the parents sad..,how can i marry other person without telling him and cheating. Surely a Muslim husband would be accommodating and respectful of his wife in full Like it or not, some men are polygamous in nature (if not all) and we have to deal with that. It is not for a believing man or a believing woman, when Allah and His Messenger have decided a matter, that they should [thereafter] have any choice about their affair. It all seems so many years ago now. but women are allowed to ask for KHULA (which is automatically granted) if man is impotent. And read Surrendered Wife and Fascinating Womanhood the books. Polygyny is permitted in Judaism. But if she denies him for no valid reason then and only then will it be a sin. Try to reconcile all the lack of trust or resentment. May the 17 Islamic rules for second marriage be useful and be an insight for anyone Muslims who wants to do polygamy. If he can be attracted to another woman to the extent that hed want to marry her then he never loved me enough. The idea, that he or she is not going to stick by you.Im not talking about infidelity. I liked him and I liked everything about him. I feel like our private parts are purchased and we are simply paid vaginas that have to be available for sex 100% of the time regardless of our feelings. If and only if she did this in the marriage contract, then he is not allowed to do that without her permission. I wouldnt allow my future husband to marry a 18 never married single gal, but if hes going to marry a widow, a divorced or older lady who couldnt get married, then maybe, maybe we can talk about him getting a second wife. When a husband and wife take their vows they are declaring to Love, Honour & Respect till death do us part and if you truly have that you cannot go wrong IA. Married more than one For men who want to carry out a second marriage, then this is permissible in Islam. Actually, this can be part of the marriage contract. 5. I repent everytime after doing it, but I am afraid that I will commit the sin to the point where my repentance will no longer be sincere or forgivenSome one please help me Im so confused. If you make a second marriage, then you will have another family relationship. Dont make things harms..where does it say men should ask their wives permission to many another???????? So congratulations to the one who is patient in obeying Allaah in this life until he attains eternal delight in the gardens of Paradise. dont thomp your thinking on all men! anger and controlling one's tongue is part of controlling one's anger After 2 weeks, a group of ladies from my family went to my in-laws house for patch up, but in front of them my husband again repeated the divorce words three times. arguments. 6. I have also grown to have feelings for him but I try and hide it all the time.Is it possible for me to make istikaara whilst married and also what do we do? honestly: 1.If this young man is righteous, Good morning Sister when you said i will never accept this part of islam you could have come out the fold of islam!! And men have all and every right to get married 4 times if he can afford it remember ladies , no he doesnt need permission from you but its better you discuss about it . To put him back on track, just reduce your level of love to the minimum level which is your duty, and he will do everything to get you and that extra love and care back I dont mean sex only, by Love. I recommend you seek marriage counselling to help find a solution to your problems as this is a complicated matter for which we cant give exact advice. If the conditions for a second marriage are right according to the Shari`ah, he can legally go ahead and marry. As we have said in many fatwas how Islam caters for the rights of women, men should not tamper with rights that Islam made inalienable to women, part of which is to respect their humanity. If muslim women can accept these little tips and advices, then our marriages will be wonderful. I will not stand for it! Just so you know amongst those good humans are the good MUSLIMS. So what ..its his right to do so 2,3 or 4. My dear Sisters & Brothers, We will do absolutely good to Our Souls if We desist from Extremism. prayer that you offered. This cookie is set by GDPR Cookie Consent plugin. 1. 5815. does not engage in sexual relations)." The person I was getting married knew I never wanted to marry him and I dislike him from my heart and I can never love him. Ameen. You do realize Muslim men can take multiple wives, and live in multiple countries that allow polygamy?. Dont do it, if a man is already thinking of another woman even before marrying you, he obviously cant be all that in love with you, sorry :(. Answering your question, Sheikh M. S. Al-Munajjid, a prominent Saudi Muslim lecturer and author, states: I need to write and submit a good article somewhere about this topic. Is ther daleel for this, or do you know about another reward?. With this shariah polygamy, of course, this benefit will not disappear in vain.(Shaykh Muhammad Asy Syanqithi in Adhwaul Bayaan quoted from Jami Ahkamin Nisaa). it helps me to console my upset mind and to love more my wouldbe. I would NEVER allow my husband to marry another woman. patient and the doers of good. Why is a man allowed to marry more than one wife in Islam? Id rather get a divorce form my husband than allow him to be married to another person. From Maqil bin Yasar, he said: Somebody came to the Prophet Sallallahu alaihi wa Sallam and said: I have a woman who has dignity and beauty, but she is barren. May Allah grant us all taqwa and love and understanding of His deen. bringing the woman in house and i have to live as if i`m a business partner shop. bestowed all these blessings upon you, so what you should do is be grateful Next time he gets ready for work button his shirt or tie his tie and tell him how handsome he looks. But due to their respect in society they want me to go back. Your words have given me hope and made me realise my husband does love me a great deal and shows it in his own way. These women truly are the best among us, because it is such a hard and difficult thing to do. Please you deserve care, love, honour and respect. AstafirAllah. and Allah knows best. Krishna had several wives. I am not certain were in the world you are situated but living in the west and all of the Sexual propaganda that we are bombarded with is a great fitna. Sister you need to get some counseling for your husband and either he changes or you leave him. The cookie is used to store the user consent for the cookies in the category "Performance". They are just doing it for their selfish reasons. and look at the attitude of the person with a lot of knowledge.everything is wasted on the author.He is such a fool.using religion to put forward his dirty thinking.Alhamdulillah there are good muslim men out there.Dont spread your poison in the name of religion.Fear Allah. What should I do. Then he is not in true love with his first wife. Alhamdulillah Allahs made it a fair play for both men and women. no one can add or reduce quran, During wars, there are more men killed as compared to women. Second, if he is not agreeing to marriage, this is a sign he was only wanting to mess around you cant force someone to want to marry you, because if you do, it will cause you misery and heartache long term. lover to pray istikhaarah, because istikhaarah is only prescribed in cases wake up to your self. Divorce does not mean divorce. Please guide me in islamic way, I feel for you, you seem to have loved this guy and he seemed to be using you It goes so far in Islam that if a woman wishes to perform an optional fasting (not the ones in Ramadan) she NEEDS to have her husbands permission! family, and praying istikhaarah about hurting her children, and praying He has a large group of friends. Unbelievable!!! Men are using their own ways of thinking to have more than one wife but there will always be one wife he will like more or give something more to. She stopped opening up to him after a while because nothing would change. Its quite understood that a man or a woman who doesnt respect or fulfill his or her spouses needs (whatever they maybe) on purpose gains Allahs displeasure. He uttered the divorce words three times in one meeting, then I went back to my parents house. But before we can really comment about marriage, marry one first, then youll know what is unknown to you before tying the knot. Get to know the conditions required for it to be healthy and practiced properly. Well the perception of people is different . As per my perception this article is for people who understands it or try to, leaving arrogance behind far away. They are not property that can be done with at any time without any consideration; women are life partners. If anything, she is going to think U cheated or did something wrong if U keep throwing dunua at her, Correct 100%..if the above post is giving u everything with reference and inspite of this you are not accepting it means you are zionistand woman dont make your own rules and laws this world is hell due to yours silly thinkings got it, Subhan Allah..JazakAllah,.. It is very unfortunate that some women object less to their If she is telling you otherwise its bcuz she thinks thia is the best she can hope for with u and ur marriage is in big trouble. The quran says that a man must treat his wives equally, you can easily argue that if the original wife doesnt want her husband to marry again then that is him being unfair to his first wife as compared to the potential second wife. Polygamy is a politically correct topic, yet it is a fact, it is allowed in Islam, also it is a fact that most women do not like it ( when it comes for the first wife) and it is a fact that a lot of the companions of the prophet did polygymy and most prophets as well, obviously it was a part of the life style back then for most men to have many women and if we look at it in a positive way, we would conclude that its out of the question that it is a noble thing to protect and respect many women and to make them wives rather than to have one wife and go to cheat with prostitutes as it is the case in many western countries nowadays including many catholic countries sadly. So unmarried women are public property? We married women know you guys think about sex 24/7 and actually what you dont know is that we probably like it as much as you if not more. Their right to you is (obtaining) sustenance and clothing in a sensible way. 4787)). But if they want it to be real, they need to think about what the wife REALLY wants and needs, instead of whats easier for them. The cookie is used to store the user consent for the cookies in the category "Other. Oh well, baby steps. I take care of myself, very physically fit, attractive and for being a westerner, I do not fit the stereotype of an easy american woman. From your question, it may be understood that Allaah has Today, if any western research say that dont refuse your husband for sex if he wants to and researcher may give any xyz reason, then it will not be ridiculous and unsettling part of Islam. (2) Will face a terrible ordeal, because Eve was the first woman ever to have menses. Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullah. Create an account, If you do not have an account, you can click the button below to create one, Create new account We married in the Church about a year before our baby was born. Men are just not that good at showing emotion (unless were talking sports or politics). According to these scriptures one can marry as many as one wishes. Not all Muslim are same, you are talking about a handful. Below is one of the verses of the Quran that explains this. I dont want to go back dont want to live with that man anymore. azislam.com -All Right Reserved. Going for Second Marriage: Do I Need Wifes Permission? Sex releases stress. but my husband love me also, he told me that he will not leave me. Here the following hadith illustrates the effect of a husband who does not apply justly to his wife. Life was very difficult for me and my children and I wasnt young anymore. said to her: Enter Paradise from whichever of the gates of Paradise you Good always comes from a bad. what if a woman has more than average desire. I was nervous the day of the meeting. Sex in men is projected outside, and in women its hidden deep within. The hadith regarding this matter says fair treatment. Yes, your right. It will keep him away from different kinds of sins and might also keep him from going to other woman. As far as the sex thing.the qaran does tell us this.hopefully our husbands are understanding and considerate of our feelings.but it is our obligation ..Overallthis article was very usefuland it helped me understand my husband a little moreas I am a revert from a western culture and my husband is north african.my biggest concern in our marriage has been that he doesnt talk and share with me as much I felt he should. No sister, theres no proof of any such against the man. 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