He promises to never do it again. If you confront your husband based on rumors or fake news, its not going to end well or provide any closure for you. these conversations are about how he wants to make them feel sexualy, where they are going ot meet, the one with my so called best friend says that he had gone there and that she was getting better at certin things. Im sorry he did this. Be strong sweetie. Thank you for your thoughts on a lying, cheating husband! I believe that he has tried to hook up with this girl again. By 9:00 pm he still wasnt home, so I called him. Id talk to a counselor and divorce lawyer as soon as possible, just to start thinking about what lies ahead if you decide to leave. The problem is we get along great then out of nowhere he needs spacedoesnt need me around 24/7. I did not mind since i was in pain after we both recovered we went to see the pyscologist and from that day he pretend to change. If he doesnt STOP, and soon, my plan is to leave after getting some financial arrangements made. With someone . So I was upset, but continued to date him. The other problem you have is that you are dependent on this man. Ive heard her voice on the other end of the line more than once. But that title i have not not earned, i was too deceived to believe his words of love & faithfulness. 1. I confronted him and he said he just talks to her when hes bored and shes funny which made my heart drop. what will I tell my unborn baby. Specific genes makes men men more likely to cheat. I found out last month that my husband of 11 years has been having a year long affair. Could he have Aspergers Syndrome? I never cheated on him. One evening I went to a local store and I saw his large work truck parked there and her van was parked just behind him. First of all, me and my husband have been together for almost six years. I didnt make him have an affair and I am not responsible for his decisions. He REFUSES to go to counciling with me and i told him its because hes affraid a professional will expose him and his lies! have there been questions asked? Those are questions only you can answer. Few studies on infidelity have gone beyond exploring demographics, said Robin Milhausen, a professor and sexuality researcher in Guelphs Department of Family Relations and Applied Nutrition who conducted the study with Kristen Mark and Erick Janssen of Indiana University. Ok 7 months ago I lost my job my husband said they are hiring at his job so I filled out an application a few times a month I would ask him if they were hiring yet he kept telling me that he didnt see them hiring anyone that he thought that they were hiring but I guess theyre not so then I seen a temp service hiring for their job and I applied and I got the job now let me back up a little bit about 2 months ago my husband and I got in a fight he said that that was his space and that he didnt really want me working there without got my eyebrows rising because I figured there was something actually going on so when I started this job come to find out they had been hiring there was a girl there that he didnt tell me about that had been there for 3 months of course I was pissed all day long and I confronted him and told him I couldnt trust him and that he had to know I was going to find out now he tells me theres nothing going on with this girl and they didnt act like it when I was there I dont work there now and I dont like the fact my husband works there but I cant control him or the situation what my question is do you think he was cheating emotionally or physically because of all the lies he told me he tells me that there was nothing going on with her and why would he have to tell me everything I said that you deliberately lied to my face time and time again I kept asking you if they were hiring anybody new and you would tell me no please help me in this because I have looked on the internet over and over again and I cant find an answer. Do you think he met someone and has been having a fling, just based on that information? I have been married for 3yrs now, i love my husband so much dat i can even kill any woman dat come close 2 him. Believe me miss lady you deserve all types of happiness especially in a relationship. Theres so much more. He never really woukd talk about her. I told him it didn't have to be over if he cheated on me, we'd just would need to see a counselor and see what would happen. I do seem to remember at some point asking him if he still had feelings for her and he said no, it woukd never have worked or something like that. This happened to a friend of mine recently and she waned to know what to do. With another mans wife. He doesnt want to get a divorce because of the kids. He disnt even throw it. But I still have flashback days when I crawl into the bathtub and cry, and I continue to monitor what shes up to on Facebook, though I know its self-destructive. I am offering only my own persepective. He lied to you about his relationship with the other woman (its not just work! Well, if your spouse is cheating on you really better to divorce him. Hes hiding sh!t, hes lying to you and girlfriend, hes cheating on you. Whether she is in the car or not you can say what you want to so I thouhgt. May you find wisdom, hope, and guidance. No doubt this incident will be added on there, lol. Woman, you need to pack his stuff up and send him to the left! Amen. I am even pregnant, I have unpacked my bags because I cant stand going on a four days vacation with him knowing he just cheated on me. I also found hed subscribed to a number of online cheating websites for married people..dating back to before he proposed to me. He also stayed at work more. I needed to check something online and he gave me permission to use his PC. Thankfully, She was saying no to him and saying that isnt being very faithful. I confronted her by text. I cant give you marriage advice because I dont know you or your husband! Stop believing everything you read from people youve never met who people you have no clue what experience they went through. The only reason I found out was because I accidentally stumbled across the messages. did you not say anything and sneak around looking for a unknown mistress? If he doesnt usually talk in a high pitch or swiftly, then hes trying to hide something. Okay so I take him back like a ideot. They just dont know what a fraud he is. Since then he was sworn black and blue hes never followed through and it was only ever fantasy to get himself off. A year now and 3 months. they also all sound similar. I couldnt leave them and he changed his story the next day. How to Find Out the Truth. He wasnt treating me like before. For women, relationship happiness is paramount. He has 3 children and I am very close with all of them. Im constantly searching for clues. Then I found out he had also been secretly spending time and contacting a young couple half his age. Everything listed about if a man is a cheater is true about my husband. and love him much as before. You need anything else or any other device or want to contact me just let me know. Hes cheated on me before, he was drunk (no excuse though) and then he lied to me about it for a while, finally told me, and I forgave him. I hope you can see and appreciate this, because focusing on your growth and communication will help you and him get closer. It is possible to recover from an affair, but it takes time and frankly, a professional to help. So if your friend can do it again please let me know. There is no one right piece of advice, no black and white answer that will solve your problem. But when you say that when my husbands bestfriend is a cheater he has the tendency to cheat too, I am so afraid of that. It hurts so bad. Really? He became extremely aggressive and angry with me when I started accusing him of being way too involved with her. If he had nothing to hide, why become defensive, and protective, and secretive? At that point, its up to you if you want to stay and put up with it and continue to try, or if you want to go along with his actions and create some distance from him yourself. Am I over-reacting? Jan, If you happen to see this Id LOVE the link to that motivation video. In the meantimepay attention, do some research/ checking uppop into his work to take lunch to him or pop in just to say you missed him, theres all kind of spywear for phones and computers nowuse it. Please note I consider this guy as a very good friend & Id rather keep the friendship & risk the friendship as well if thats what it takes, than let him get involved with me for the wrong reasons from his perspective if truly wants to work it out with his wife. I feel as if you and your husband are in a long term marriage and you find out he cheated as a one night stand or in a completely other relationship you can go to therapy find out what went wrong and work on it and slowly gain back what you once had. I find peace in her response to him when he emailed her and she replied that she thought he couldnt have friends that were girls. I see her at work daily. Every person is different. For him I had to get divorce papers to stop it. And heres an article I wrote for another reader, who is in the same boat as you: https://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/why-doesnt-he-love-me-the-way-i-love-him/, I have been with my husband for 13 years. I have told him that no matter what I want to work this out because I believe we and our kids are worth it and he sill says he innocent.please if you have time I could use some help. So to ALL my wife friends out there. later. what can I do? Since this has happened, there has not been a day that I dont talk about it with him. Had nothing to do with the fact that he spent all day Sunday with his ex wife and kids? So I need to decide if I will allow myself to trust him or if I can handle all this paranoia and worry because if I cant, that should be enough for me to leave the relationship. While Im in pain he continues to talk to her and other females he continued for another month he stop when he felt like it he did not stop because it hurt me Ive thought about leaving Im learning how to forgive slowly.. but i do not forget.. Who needs it? We are together today and he thanks me for saving him and our marriage (which he was wanting to scrap get a mediator and divorce. For kicks, Im going to take a picture of him asleep in our livingroom. Now Im 41 years old and Im at high risk and he doesnt want to adopt or try another fertility treatment. I noticed that he has texted a specific number over 200 times over the last 2 weeks. How are is it so sure? Not to mention I also saw his exs name in the history also. One is with a coworker. I do question time to time who he truly is because sometimes I see him as this amazing man and sometimes I see him as this evil person who destroyed a part of me. And my prayer is that you follow yourself, for you already have the answers. am in doubt whether he s havng any affair.. how to find out. If you're in a romantic relationship with a narcissist . He said how can we do anything with her Dad and his friend there. I cried. The hook up well. ? What did you do? I was wondering if I should just leave him now or wait until I have concrete evidence? I pulled my husband aside and asked him to please just keep his distance. In my belief, at just shy of 50 and with the same guy almost 30 years, if you lose who you are and give up your own dreams and independence, you not only will eventually find your spouse and yourself at opposite ends continually but you will find yourself at 50 wondering why you became one of the coulda, woulda, shoulda clan. Not even two months after we were married i found out he was cheating with me with a girl he previously was with but she had an open marriage. Please dont. You and I are worth more than that! HiI am pretty sure my husband of 11 yrs has or is cheating online. Ive been ruminating and hurting my feelings with my thoughts for months. He said he found out her brother was in the same singing group as my brother back in the 80s and they began to talk more when he came through the line. Has he been faithful to you for the past ten years? I Dont really know what to do. Im sorry you had to be, though I wish you and your husband were having no problems to write about. One of the problems with cheating is that its a slippery slope. Part 2: Not Getting It. I confronted her and him with the email and they claimed it was a big joke. We have been together for 7 years and been married for 2 years+. Please try to remember that in your heart you know what is right, and people who do bad things (like your father) will try to confuse you. I dont know what to do? Then next day he ask if i was over it and I said no not till i get to the bottom of it and he said If you dont trust the truth from me then I really dont know what to tell you so you belive me. I think he had an affair with the women for these reasons: 1. At least you don't have kids with this lying, non-remorseful, s.o.b. What do I do now.?. I believed and trusted him. I also have to concur that monogomy certainly appears to come more easily and natural to the female human than to the male. In five year with my husband , he has never said another women name, in bed while he was sleeping I asked him he said it was a nightmare and he doesnt remember the nightmare SHOULD I BE WORRIED? Its not that YOURE boring, its that he may not know how to sustain a long-term relationship. Why arent you guys married, after more than four years together? Finally he admitted it and said it happened twice. I checked his phone and he had deleted the calls to and from her from his phone but I found them on the internet bill. I approached him about it and he got very shirty with me and said shes just a friend . You need to listen to your gut, and make some hard decisions. If I post on his page he either deletes it or ignores it (especially if its something like I love you). So he wakes up and I told him she called me and he denies being good friends and that he doesnt know her like that, he also denies meeting up at the parking lot, he says he would only go to get gas and cig and leave, that was a lie bc that particular place isnt open at 2am. We have been together for 14 years..and he was unaware of any of my past. But I see through him.. ), and he is leading her on. I just hate that I dont trust him, but Ive always felt he needs attention from other women, and I feel like Im just not enough. Well, just recently he decides to come up to me and say that he thinks we should have an open realationship. THE BEST PART of our relationship was always COMMUNICATION. Hi Allison- I was so sad to read your message. Lied to me he was with his parents. I HATE people especially MEN who takes advantage of woman. He had changed so much after the night he went out with her. Sometimes we get sick along with our sick partners and its hard to see the truth. We have >ow 3 boys together befor my last pregnacy I found another womens number on his account to his phone and called her she said they was just friends. He had too much free time and was making good money. i just need some help figuring this out please HELP!!! I never would be type to look through his phone or anyones but I would do it to annoy him as he would look at mine as he knew what he had done and was always projecting his shortcoming. We met one more time a week before they officially got married. Then you proceed to storm out and take off. some people cheat because its accessible nothing youve done wrong. But, it doesnt seem to be enough. Youre stronger than you know! I know she wants him just by the way she moved away from him really fast when I walked over to him. If you have further questions, feel free to ask! In some form or another, you need to NOT let this consume you. 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